Sexuality & Intimacy Issues
WHAT ARE SEXUALITY AND INTIMACY ISSUES?
Sexuality issues usually include sexual dysfunction challenges such as: erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, lack of sexual desire, sexual pain disorders, inability to achieve orgasm (anorgasmia). Sexuality issues can also include less common alternative practices such as:
- Gender identity and gender issues
- Sexual offending behaviours.
- Sex addiction (Out of Control Sexual Behaviours)
- Sexual abuse and trauma.
A fear of intimacy is very real. It can be caused by any number of issues, including a low libido, suffering from sexual performance issues, or having sustained a sexual trauma early in life. Social phobias, such as social anxiety disorders, or fears of feeling vulnerable or abandoned, can cause intimacy issues as well.
SIGNS & SYMPTOMS OF SEXUAL DYSFUNCTION AND/OR INTIMACY ISSUES:
- Avoidance of sexual activity
- Lack of trust
- General or social anxiety
- Avoidance of intimate relationships
- Low libido
- Painful sex,
- Erectile Dysfunction
- Vaginismus (female genital pain disorders)
- Premature ejaculation
WHEN IS IT TIME TO GET HELP?
If any aspect of your sex life or sexuality is causing your grief when it used to produce pleasure, if you have been the victim of sexual abuse or assault and you are having trouble coping, when the behaviors of sex addiction (Out of Control Sexual Behaviours) cause distress in your life or in your relationship, then it’s time to seek help. Be wary of professionals who claim that “sex addiction” is a valid diagnosis and claim that affairs, engaging in kink, or watching pornography are hallmark signs of addiction. These professionals are not Certified Sex Therapists and are trained in a different model that is not currently accepted by psychologists and psychiatrists in our diagnostic and treatment manual.
Some sexual dysfunction issues can threaten your physical health or be a sign of physical health problems. A sex therapist can refer you to physicians or specialists if the primary concern is not psychological. Sexual issues can also impact your well-being, bringing on depression, anxiety, addictions and feelings of inadequacy. As a note, Certified Sex Therapists do not have sexual contact with clients.
TREATMENT METHODS FOR SEXUALITY AND INTIMACY ISSUES
- Psychotherapy is a broad term that encompasses numerous styles of therapy and employs verbal or nonverbal communication with a client to help get to the root of the problem, behavioral issues, personality disorders, and various other types of emotional distress. This form of personal counselling is based on an interpersonal relationship, as opposed to the alternative chemical or physical forms of therapy. As the therapist creates dialogue, you are able to learn more about your moods, behavior, feelings, and thoughts. Understanding these factors helps you to control your life and handle certain situations healthily.
- Crucible Approach Therapy: One of the main focuses is on helping clients reach their sexual potential by increasing their overall capacity for both intimacy and passion while at the same time resolving any of their unresolved sexual problems. Additionally, the crucible approach emphasizes personal growth and the family therapy concept called Differentiation, which originally came from Bowenian family therapy. Differentiation focuses on helping individuals tolerate anxiety while facing issues head on, all the while improving their ability to self soothe while they hear and say difficult things. Differentiation also involves improving the ability to hold onto one’s self while maintaining the relationship.
Group Therapy especially for male sexual dysfunction may be helpful to reduce the stigma and feelings of isolation you may be experiencing.
WHAT WILL I GET OUT OF TREATMENT WITH INSIGHT PSYCHOLOGICAL?
You can gain control of your sexual and mental health again! Meeting with a therapist who is trained, experienced or has expertise in the areas of sexual concerns can make a significant difference in your life. Be wary of professionals who claim that “sex addiction” is a valid diagnosis and claim that affairs, engaging in kink, or watching pornography are hallmark signs of addiction. These professionals are not Certified Sex Therapists and are trained in a different model that is not currently accepted by psychologists and psychiatrists in our diagnostic and treatment manual. We may suggest family therapy so that your close relations will be maintained and/or marriage and relationship counselling if you’re in a relationship.