Self-esteem, in a nutshell is what you think of yourself, home much respect you have for yourself, and how capable, loveable and worthy you feel. Self-esteem issues can go either way – some sufferers have a very low sense of self-worth, or low self-esteem, while others have an overly inflated sense of self-worth, also known as Narcissism. In either case, those who have these issues have a hard time relating to others, and may suffer in the workplace, in school, or in general life because of them.
Signs & Symptoms of Self-Esteem issues
- Inflated or deflated sense of self
- Constant self-criticism
- Social anxiety
- Feelings of worthlessness
- Believing one is better than everyone else
- Self-directed anger or hatred
- Feelings of shame or embarrassment
When is it time to get help?
If you are unable to quiet that inner voice that says you’re not good enough, you’re a failure, you’ll never do it, and worse, that can lead to all kinds of negative effects on your happiness and your quality of life. When you are constantly doubting yourself, and dwelling on your short comings – that can lead to poor work performance and wreak havoc on your personal relationships. Believing you are unlovable, can force you to avoid relationships or act negatively while you’re in one.
Self-esteem issues treatment methods
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is an evidence based approach to treatment that focuses on how your thoughts, emotions and beliefs influence your behaviour and how you perceive yourself, others and the world. CBT has been shown to be effective in dealing with anxiety because it helps you to change those negative thoughts, feelings, emotions and projections on a subject matter or circumstance and help you to learn more effective ways of dealing with your anxiety. This approach uses sound techniques to slow down, halt and eliminate your own learned reactions. Ultimately, CBT deals with those circumstances and events that you’re aware of, rather than dealing with circumstances and events relating to your unconscious. Through a sound therapeutic process, you’ll learn to respond differently to issues and circumstances, and you’ll learn healthy coping mechanisms.
- Existential Therapy is focused on providing the client with a greater understanding of self including self-development, and self-awareness. This therapy works on the individual’s unique set of choices and the meaning behind them. Furthermore, the therapy emphasizes an individual’s agency to make those unique choices and the need to be responsible for the consequences. The therapy makes known that the individual can not blame their decisions and the repercussions entirely on past conditioning and/or genetics. The therapy tries to employ a sense of meaning to the individual’s life and to clarify the right way to make sound choices that are constructive and rewarding.
What will I get out of treatment with Insight Psychological?
Your therapist will help you uncover the reason for your low or inflated self-esteem. Why do you feel inferior or superior to others? Is there a behaviour or pattern in your past that has contributed to those thoughts? What kind of subconscious thoughts are contributing to these issues? A method of therapy that’s right for you, delivered by a caring and supportive therapist will help to build your confidence and even out your self esteem so you can work towards having a feeling of inner peace and contentment.