Blended Family Adjustment

It can be tricky for two families to combine into one successful family, particularly if there are children on both sides. The children involved might have issues adjusting to their new surroundings, new school, new stepparent and new siblings. The new stepparent is also faced with a lot of changes. This can lead to a number of issues for everyone who is a part of the newly blended family.

Some issues brought about by combining families can include:

  • Feelings of unfairness or inadequacy
  • Conflict between siblings
  • Issues brought about by moving into a new house or new neighbourhood
  • Problems after changing schools
  • Issues making new friends
  • Anger towards the new stepparent
  • Anger towards the birth parent
  • Trouble parenting stepchildren
  • Conflicting methods of parenting between stepparents

Symptoms & signs of blended family stress

The above issues can result in stress for specific family members or can affect everyone in the family. Signs that these issues are starting to take their toll include:

  • Excessive arguing
  • Defiance from the children
  • Physical altercations between new siblings
  • School marks dropping (children and youth)
  • Poor work performance (adults)
  • Withdrawing from friends and other interests
  • Always wanting to be away from home
  • Mood swings or other behavioural changes
  • Stress in the marriage or parent’s relationship
  • Symptoms of anxiety
  • Symptoms of depression

When is it time to get help?

Blended families may need to go through an adjustment process, so patience is key. However, if the usual snags that blended families often encounter are having a negative impact on any person in the family or any relationships within that family, then it’s a good idea to seek support before patterns and resentment really take hold.

Blended family stress treatment methods

Depending on the issues your blended family is facing will determine the best therapy treatment. Treatment might include improving communication, talk therapy or it may also be necessary for one or more of the children involved to go through individual therapy, such as play therapy. Or the parents might benefit from couples counselling. An evaluation conducted by a licensed therapist should be done to determine the best methods for each family member or the family as a whole. Effective family treatments include:

  • Solution focused therapy views people as inherently strong and resilient, and capable of creating change and discovering solutions to their everyday problems.
  • Structural family therapy involves looking at the structures within the family unit. Changing the underlying structure tends to cause a ripple effect on the family. This therapy analyzes the hierarchical structure, subsystems and boundaries within the family.
  • Family systems therapy looks at the family as a one emotional unit. This therapeutic approach looks at the relationships within the family and the structure as a whole.

What will I get out of treatment with Insight Psychological?

Navigating family relationships is often a bit challenging as there are so many different people and variables involved. Blending two families into one can add to those challenges. However, with some good communication tools, and understanding of what each member is going through – there is no reason why your blended family and everyone in it – can’t thrive. We’d be honoured to assist you on that journey.

Insight Psychological has multiple locations in the Alberta. Please call us today to see how we can help the members of your new blended family work through their issues, to function better as a whole.

 

Brooke Hendricks

Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults

Deb Johansson

Online Counselling, Edmonton West

Adults, Children (3-5), Children & Youth (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Seniors, Families, Couples

Erin Wilkinson

Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Seniors, Couples, Assessments

Loriann Quinlan

Edmonton South, Edmonton West, Online Counselling

Adults, Seniors

Ricardo Sarango

Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Adolescents (13-17)

Smita Gupta

Edmonton South, Edmonton West, Edmonton North, Online Counselling

Adults, Children (3-5), Adolescents (13-17), Seniors, Families, Assessments

Damien Daly

Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Children (3-5), Children & Youth (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Assessments

Dotun Ogunfowora

Calgary, Online Counselling

Adults, Children (3-5), Children & Youth (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Families, Couples, LGBTQ community, Sexuality, Assessments

Navpreet Johal

Calgary

Adults, Adolescents (13-17), LGBTQ community, Assessments

Dr. Robert Roughley

Calgary, Online Counselling

Adults, Seniors, Families, Couples, LGBTQ community, Sexuality, Assessments

Sabrina Brady

Edmonton Central, Edmonton North, Online Counselling

Adults, Adolescents (13-17), Seniors, Couples, LGBTQ community, Sexuality, Assessments

Bryan Halabi

Edmonton North, Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Children & Youth (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Seniors, Couples

Terri Philips

Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Children (3-5), Children & Youth (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), LGBTQ community, Assessments

Brianna Kamphorst

Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Children (3-5), Children & Youth (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Seniors, Families, Couples

Karen Gaudin

Corporate, Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Adolescents (13-17), Seniors, Families, Couples, LGBTQ community, Sexuality, Assessments

Nikesha Deenoo

Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Children (3-5), Children & Youth (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Seniors, Families, Couples, Sexuality

Doris Kieser

Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Adolescents (13-17), Couples, LGBTQ community, Sexuality

Kelly Jenny

Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Couples, LGBTQ community, Sexuality

Raelene Tulick

Online Counselling, Calgary

Adults, Adolescents (13-17), Seniors, Families, Couples, LGBTQ community, Sexuality, Assessments

Karla Buchholz

Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Adolescents (13-17), Seniors, Families, Couples, LGBTQ community, Sexuality

Coralee Thomas

Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Children (3-5), Children & Youth (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Seniors, Families, Couples, LGBTQ community, Sexuality, Assessments

Natalie McMurray

Calgary, Online Counselling

Adults, Couples

Tracy Pham

Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Children (3-5), Children & Youth (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Families, Couples, Assessments

Bob Stenhouse

Corporate

Roy Langer

Corporate

Shaheel Hooda

Corporate

At this time, Insight Psychological does not have therapists who specialize in this specific area, but that doesn’t mean we can’t help you! Please contact us to talk with our Intake Personnel to find a therapist that is a good fit for you and your unique circumstances.