Loss of a Loved One

We can “lose” a loved one in various ways: we can have a falling out with them and do irreparable damage to the relationship, couples can divorce or separate, and family members can become estranged. The most traumatic of all losses can be the death of a loved one. This doesn’t make the other types of loss any less difficult to handle, but a death is permanent. There’s no possibility of reconciliation or mending relationships. Experiencing the death of a loved one can be devastating and something that can take a toll on you mentally, physically, and spiritually. Intellectually, you may know that death is a part of life but when it actually affects you, you may feel shocked, angry, depressed, or that the death of your loved one is simply not fair. All these emotions are very common. It’s not easy to cope after losing a loved one but grieving is the natural process you have to go through and it looks different for everyone.

Symptoms & signs of extreme grief

Emotional symptoms:

  • Inconsolable sadness
  • Inability to function
  • Obsession with the deceased
  • Looking for or thinking you see your loved one in various places
  • Disbelief or inability to accept that they actually died
  • Obsession with death in general
  • Feelings of anger or guilt
  • Avoiding things that remind you of your loved one
  • Numbness
  • Irritability
  • Withdrawing from others
  • Guilt
  • Anxiety
  • Participating in self-destructive behaviours (alcohol or substance use, for example)

Physical symptoms:

  • Lack of appetite
  • Digestive problems
  • Sleeplessness or sleeping too much
  • Feeling achy
  • Headaches
  • Lowered immunity

When is it time to get help?

It’s normal to feel grief when you’ve experienced the loss of someone you love. The symptoms of grief are problematic if you’ve been experiencing them for a prolonged time or they are severe enough to affect your daily life – eating, sleeping, working, etc. for an extended time. It’s easy to slip from sadness over the loss into depression or anxiety, and can even be a trigger for substance problems. If the death was very sudden, violent, or disturbing, you may even develop symptoms of PTSD. Or if your relationship with your loved one was unhealthy or complicated, it would be beneficial to work through some of those issues that may compound or complicate the grief you’re experiencing. If the grief you are experience is affecting your life and ability to move forward, then it’s time to seek help.

Extreme grief treatment methods

There are several different treatment methods for dealing with grief from losing a loved one. Your therapist will discuss with you what may work best for you. Some common treatments include:

  • Grief work therapy refers to the methods used in counselling that help people to grieve loss and understand their emotions associated with the loss in a healthy way with the ultimate goal of moving forward.
    Acceptance and commitment therapy encourages clients to accept the difficulties and misfortunes of life. Clients learn coping techniques to not dwell on negative emotions by staying in the present.
  • Person Centered Therapy differs from more traditional therapeutic approaches in the belief that, while the therapist has expertise in many areas, the client is the expert on themselves and their lived experiences. People are essentially trustworthy and have a vast potential for understanding themselves while also being able to ultimately resolve their own problems when guided properly.
  • Emotionally focused therapy is based on observations and experience. It looks at emotions and emotional intelligence, which helps support stronger and more secure relationships by helping better understand how our actions impact others, and how our emotions drive our interaction.
  • Faith based therapy is using science-based therapeutic techniques that are administered by a therapist with similar spiritual beliefs or an understanding of those beliefs. This is not based on any one religion or spiritual belief.

What will I get out of treatment with Insight Psychological?

Here at Insight Psychological, we have trained specialists in grief and loss, allowing you to feel confident in the expertise that your therapist brings, and more at ease when coming in. Your therapist will work with you to identify and deal with your feelings. Although you may feel like you’re alone in your grieving process, you are not. We’d be honoured to support you on this journey.

Insight can provide you with in-person, online, or telephone counselling. Contact us to learn more or to book an appointment.

 

Brooke Hendricks

Counselling Edmonton South, Online Counselling

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Loriann Quinlan

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Brandi Enns

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Sabrina Brady

Counselling Edmonton Central, Counselling Edmonton North, Online Counselling, New Brunswick and Nova Scotia

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Karla Buchholz

Counselling Edmonton South, Online Counselling

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Terri Mulveney

Counselling Edmonton South, Online Counselling

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Nikesha Deenoo

Counselling Edmonton South, Online Counselling

Adults, Children (3-5), Children & Youth (6-12), Adolescents (13-17), Seniors, Families, Couples, Sexuality

Nicole Donovan

Counselling Edmonton South, Online Counselling

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Kathryn Maier

Counselling Edmonton North, Online Counselling

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Robyn Campbell

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Kelly Jenny

Counselling Edmonton South, Online Counselling

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Tracy Pham

Counselling Edmonton South, Online Counselling

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Desiree Stewart

Counselling Edmonton South, Online Counselling

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Anna Neale

Counselling Edmonton South, Online Counselling

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Dr. Hendriatta Wong

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Bob Stenhouse

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Shirley Leonard

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Shaheel Hooda

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Lisa Standeven

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Tara-Lee Goerlitz

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Dr. Ivan Murray

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Jaci Freeman

Counselling Edmonton South

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At this time, Insight Psychological does not have therapists who specialize in this specific area, but that doesn’t mean we can’t help you! Please contact us to talk with our Intake Personnel to find a therapist that is a good fit for you and your unique circumstances.