Divorce or Separation

When is it time to get help?

No one enters a relationship expecting it to end. You begin with such hope and often feel devastated when it ends, especially if you were not the one to make that decision. It’s normal to feel sad, lonely, angry, confused, or even betrayed if your relationship is ending. But, if those emotions are becoming too big to manage – you’re not just feeling sad – you feel as though you can’t get out of bed – if you find yourself withdrawing from others, always feeling enraged, and these emotions are consuming you to the point of affecting your work, other relationships, or the general quality of your life – then it’s time to seek help.

Fallout from divorce and separation treatment methods

Together with your therapist you will determine the best approach for you to aid your healing from a divorce or separation. Depending on what you’re mostly feeling (anxiety, depression, grief, etc.) will determine the best treatment method for you and your unique circumstances. Some treatments that are effective in treating these feelings are:

• Acceptance and commitment therapy encourages clients to accept the difficulties and misfortunes of life. Clients learn coping techniques to not dwell on negative emotions by staying in the present.
• Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) is an evidence-based approach to treatment that focuses on how people’s thoughts, emotions, and beliefs influence their behaviour and how they perceive themselves.
• Person Centered Therapy differs from more traditional therapeutic approaches in the belief that, while the therapist has expertise in many areas, the client is the expert on themselves and their lived experiences. People are essentially trustworthy and have a vast potential for understanding themselves while also being able to ultimately resolve their own problems when guided properly.
• Dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) is a treatment method that’s similar to cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) but emphasizes building skills to manage stress, emotional response and regulation, mental health issues, and the psycho-social aspects of relationship building.
• Faith based therapy is using science-based therapeutic techniques that are administered by a therapist with similar spiritual beliefs or an understanding of those beliefs. This is not based on any one religion or spiritual belief.