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Model of action and perceived power (MAPP)

Posted on 22/03/2017 in Anxiety, Depression, Sexual Issues

Abstract Due to the need and request for a more sophisticated and robust understanding of the area of bondage, discipline and sadomasochism (BDSM or SM) activity, a more detailed and organized visual representation model was developed based not only on clinical experience, but on input from the SM community. This is called the model of action and perceived power (MAPP). After a review of the literature finding that little has been written outlining any adequate pictorial models of these relationships, the MAPP was developed to chart how commonly identified personal or given labels such as Master, Slave, Predator, etc. within… Read More Here!

 

Fighting Fair

Posted on 04/10/2016 in Couples Counselling, Sexual Issues

Tell me if this sounds familiar. You bring up a point to your partner, something like, “why don’t we have that spark anymore,” “I feel lonely in our relationship,” or “I don’t feel appreciated.” Really, it can be anything that you’re upset about and want fixed. Only, instead of your partner listening to your concern, they respond by getting defensive and saying something like “well you never initiate sex either and I can’t read your mind,” “we do have sex so what is your problem,” or “I do appreciate you, here’s some examples of why you’re wrong about this.” So… Read More Here!

 

Empty Nest or New Opportunity

Posted on 04/10/2016 in Children, Couples Counselling, Parenting

My baby is leaving home… what am I going to do now?  Many parents experience a feeling of loss when the last child leaves home.  Well, you are not alone.  The majority of parents experience that feeling of a double edged sword.  Parents are thrilled that all of the nurturing, caring and teachings has led their child to be actively independent,  coupled with the loss of the daily experiences and companionship they  share with their child every day at home. This mish-mash of emotions actually has a name – empty nest syndrome.   This is not a clinical diagnosis, but rather… Read More Here!

 

Psychological Cause & Effect of Erectile Dysfunction

Posted on 04/10/2016 in Abuse, Anxiety, Depression, Sexual Issues, Stress Management

Are you experiencing Erectile Dysfunction (ED)? If you look at a lot of the medical literature exploring ED, they tend to quote that psychological factors are responsible for about 10%-20% of all cases. Interestingly, as a psychologist, and in my practice as a sex therapist, it is my experience that psychological factors are responsible for closer to 80% or 90% of ED issues. Certainly, there are a lot of medical causes for ED, and these need to be ruled out first prior to looking at psychological effects or causes. Common medical conditions that induce ED include: Diabetes,  obesity, history of smoking… Read More Here!

 

Pokémon Go or Pokémon No

Posted on 04/10/2016 in Children, Family Issues, Parenting

If you can believe it, Pokémon has been around for over twenty years! The newest way to play is the sudden craze Pokémon Go, a game which gets the players to use their phones to walk around outside and catch the virtual monsters in the real world. Pokémon Go has been a huge and fast success for Nintendo as many people are playing it, children and adults alike.   The sudden flood of gamers has brought up some interesting reports of the benefits and concerns of playing Pokémon Go.  Some parents are claiming that the game has been a support… Read More Here!