Reclaiming passion in the bedroom can dramatically enhance intimacy and strengthen relationships. This blog outlines strategies from field experts such as Insight Psychologica’s Dr. Cory Hrushka, Registered Senior Psychologist, Clinical and Forensic Psychologist, PhD, CCS, DST, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, (He/Him) and Kelly Jenny, an expert in human sexuality.
Most bedroom issues stem from breaches in communication, intimacy, sexuality, or relational navigation. Addressing these core areas can resolve many challenges couples face, enhancing their connection and sexual satisfaction.
Key Strategies for Reclaiming Passion
- Effective Communication
It is important to ask open-ended questions and avoiding assumptions. Eliminate negative language and focusing on positive, constructive dialogue.
- Understanding Arousal Templates
An arousal template is like a “map” in our brains of what sexually stimulates us. Communication helps identify personal arousal triggers which then aids you in integrating them into the relationship. Some ways to explore common arousal templates are visual stimuli for men and relational cues for women.
- Differentiation and Balance
Find common ground between individual desires within the relationship and encourage open discussions about fantasies and preferences.
- Addressing Sexual Functioning Issues
Recognize and treat conditions like erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, and sexual pain disorders. It is also important to understand the psychological and relational factors impacting sexual health.
- Incorporating Sensate Focus
Sensate focus aims to eliminate stress and self-consciousness around intimacy by allowing couples to focus on two main elements: touching and being touched. Engage in mindfulness-based exercises that enhance physical and emotional intimacy without focusing solely on sexual performance. This builds a foundation of trust and mutual pleasure.
Reclaiming passion requires open communication, understanding individual and partner needs, and addressing any underlying sexual health issues. By implementing these strategies, couples can enhance their intimacy and rekindle the passion in their relationships. Insight Psychological offers comprehensive support through counseling and workshops for practitioners and clients alike.
For more details, check out our services or contact us to learn more about how we can support you and your partner in reclaiming your passion.
Resources:
- www.health.cornell.edu/sites/health/files/pdf-library/sensate-focus.pdf
- www.sexandrelationshiphealing.com/blog/what-is-an-arousal-template
- Passion: Reclaiming the Bedroom presentation by Cory Hrushka, Ph.D., CCS, DST, Registered Psychologist
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