Hi, I am having issues with my husband. He is very selfish and closed off (admittedly) and lately it’s been worse. He just wants to do things with sports or his friends. I understand he lives a busy life and he has a lot responcibilty at work, but I want to feel loved and not just like roommate.
What you have described is common in many couple relationships and can occur during different developmental stages of a relationship. With the given information, you and your husband need to be clear on what you require and expect in the relationship from the other. Once this has been identified, teaching each other how to accommodate to these expectations would be beneficial. Because there can be different imbalances within the relationship, including a third, neutral party may also be helpful in obtaining growth within the relationship without losing oneself. A third party can also provide additional psycho-education on active listening and communication issues that may be present as well. If you and your husband are both interested, we have a variety of therapists at Insight Psychological who are able to support both of you in working through this issue.