My fiance says he can never trust a woman, but still loves me. He refuses to give me oral sex – always makes lame excuses. He just found out he’s HIV positive and I’m negative, refuses to go for post test counselling. He is stubborn and it’s killing me inside because I don’t want to make him feel bad or upset. He’s faithful to me and works very hard. What can I do? I really want to marry him and be happy still.
Being in a relationship can result in different intimacy and sexual issues. It is important for both individuals in a relationship to feel supported and validated by the other through affection and attraction. Your fiance may be struggling with some personal issues as well. However, because you are willing to support him and the relationship, I would suggest that you meet with one of our counsellors through an indivdual session. By seeing a therapist, they may be able to support you with managing your emotions and the challenges that you are currently facing within the relationship.