My wife over the past year or so has been totally disinterested in having sex with me or doing anything sexual in nature. She has extreme anxiety over it and says it really hurts when we do have sex. What can I do to help our situation? She feels really bad about it and I don’t want her to feel that way.
Lack of sexual desire shows up in almost all relationships at one point or another. There could be many reasons for this. It could be the result of a major life change (like having a child or the loss of a parent), it could be due to difficulties within the relationship, or their could be something medical going on.
Here at Insight, we have three practicing sex therapists, one of which is the only certified sex therapist in Alberta. The therapists at Insight are highly trained in this topic. You and your wife may find it benificial to come in and speak to someone. Sex and intimacy desires put a lot of strain on the relationship and I’m sure it is causing a lot of stress for both you and your wife.