boyfriend decided no sex

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Cynthia asked 12 years ago

We are in our mid 50’s and have been dating since January. He has had a history of casual sex and many women. In April, he started talking about becoming exclusive. He asked me to give him until July to wrap up loose ends, which he did. Until then, he wanted to wait on sex. In July, he had major surgery. Now he’s decided it’s not godly to be intimate. We still have not been intimate. I am angry, frustrated, rejected and resentful. I was not consulted and feel I am in a no win situation. How do I address this? How can I communicate my needs and respect his? What options do I have? What’s a reasonable timeframe to give him?