Why does can’t she bare to see me?

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mathew asked 9 years ago

I split up with my partner 3 years ago. We had a long term relationship, which for the most part was amazing. We were very much in love. The relationship broke down twice because I was found to be lying about my use of cannabis. The third time was the final break-down. She just left me never to be seen again. After about 18 months I called her and we got back on like a house on fire. She will always return my calls and we speak for an hour or two. But when I suggest meeting for a coffee she refuses to. I know she has still got feelings for me and I for her. Why do we get on so well on the phone & why is she so adamat that we can not ever meet?