Surviving affairs on both sides

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Sue asked 12 years ago

My husband & I have been together for 17yrs & during the first 10 there was a great deal of cheating. We recently came clean about ones the other didn’t know about, his were always sexual mine were emotional, we’re struggling to move past now, also found out he was sexually abused as a child.

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Insight Psychological Staff answered 12 years ago


Thanks for turning to Insight.  Moving past multiple affairs is often a very difficult process for couples to work through.  It involves addressing a number of thoughts, feelings, experiences, and perceptions for both partners, so I can understand how it would be a struggle for you and your husband right now. That doesn’t mean that it isn’t possible and that there aren’t couples who have gone through what you have and are happily married. I encourage you and your husband to meet with one of our therapists to explore what will be most helpful moving forward and to learn more about what it will take to live a long and fulfilling life together.

We look forward to hearing from you soon,

Ashley Tulloch