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Lisa asked 13 years ago

I just got out of an abusive relationship 1 year ago and it seems that I seem to get back into another. I would like to break this cycle. I’m always letting men control my life and would like to be self-confident and take control of my life. I love too much and I’m always a dormat. How can I do this?

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Insight Psychological Staff answered 13 years ago


I can imagine your situation is very overwhelming for you and has had a significant impact on your self-esteem and emotional well-being. It is common for women who have been abused in past relationships to subconsciously seek out similar relationships in the future.  Vulnerability to repeat victimization is a long-term consequence of abuse. It is important to recognize that you are not alone in your struggles, and you are not to blame for the abuse.

Although you may feel scared or uncertain about what is yet to come, there is hope for a nonabusive future. Turning to Insight Psychological was a big step in acknowledging that your relationships with men have been unhealthy and that something needs to change.  There are issues that ought to be addressed in your life in order to experience the change you desire.

It will be very important for you to surround yourself with a healthy and strong support network throughout this process, which may include establishing a working alliance with one of our therapists.  I highly encourage you to contact us so that we can assist you in breaking the cycle of abuse for good. 

Stay strong,