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Brandon asked 12 years ago

I don’t know what to do I’m so in love with my ex, like, I would do anything for him. I’m scared its over and I know that but, I’ve never been in love with someone so hard and his cousin tried to ruin us and it worked. I don’t know what she did or said to him he changed 🙁

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Insight Psychological Staff answered 12 years ago

If she’s seeing someone else, does she want to fix the relationship with you? Is she willing to let go of this other relationship? Relationships can be worth doing the work, it just requires the work of both people. If she has said that she wants to work on the two of you for the sake of the family, that sounds to me like she is willing to let go of the other relationship.

Even if she is not wanting to get back together with you, there are things you can do to have a positive co-parenting experience (my assumption is that the two of you have children together?). It would be beneficial for the two of you to speak to someone, no matter what she decides to do. There are several places you can contact for support. You can make an appointment with us here at Insight at 780-461-1717, The Family Center (780-424-5580) or The Support Network (780-482-0198).

Insight Psychological Staff answered 12 years ago

The ending of a relationship is a significant change in anyone’s life. Without appropriate processing, residual feelings can still be present which can influence decision making. Love can sometimes be disguised as enmeshment or infatuation. The difference between these issues and love is that love requires a grounded lens from both individuals. The first step is being able to self-soothe through stress and anxiety management which can allow for personal growth to occur. I would suggest meeting with one of your counselors to help support you as an individual during this process.