Jealous

carrie asked 12 years ago

I have a boyfriend and his friend has a girlfriend, and their gunna break up soon. She talks to my boyfriend and recently me too, he only thinks of her as a friend and I trust him 100%. I’m wondering if it is okay that she calls and txts him sometimes to talk, maybe 15min call. 🙁

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Insight Psychological Staff answered 12 years ago

If you trust him 100%, and she is talking to you as well, you most likely have nothing to worry about. The key thing to watch for is secrecy. If your boyfriend or this female friend start to keep secrets from you, then there is a problem. As long as the lines of communication are completely open between you and your boyfriend, your relationship should be okay.

There’s a good chance this girl is just struggling right now and is looking for support. It makes sense for her to go to her boyfriend’s friend. I suggest being there for her as well. Let her get emotional support from you. Jealousy always works the opposite way we want it to, so as long as you make yourself available to support her, she should not have any need to keep any secrets from you.